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My dad sent me the following love letter written by my great great great grandfather, Joshua Charlton Fleetwood. This is his 2nd attempt at asking Sister Lou to marry him. His first wife died, so this would be his 2nd marriage. His persistence paid off, and they ended up marrying! I love how he pursued her, and seriously, I was born in the wrong generation. It really is a beautiful letter.
August 10th 1864
Dear Sister Lou,
A smile will be excited when you see the signature at the bottom of this letter, and you may conclude that I am unreasonable. If I do wrong in asking you to please be kind enough to reconsider the decision you arrived at when I last conversed with you on the subject of marriage. I shall only do what others have done, and I shall be better satisfied to know that I have exhausted every effort in my power to persuade you to accede to the proposition I make. I am prompted to renew may suit, because I am certain I shall never see another lady as near like the dear one I have lost, as yourself, and right here I will say that as long as you continue to be the same unaffected, conscientious, candid Christian you have shown yourself to be when I have seen you, I shall be compelled to love you.
You may feel satisfied of one thing…that you have one that will love you and will always be glad to see you, whether you marry him or not. Since I saw you I have formed the acquaintance of several very nice ladies and have been strongly urged to address one or two, but I could not think of doing such a thing while my Dearest Lou had the most ardent affections of my heart. I have been with brother McDowell several days and intimated to him my reverse. I suggested this Quiry. “Is it right for a Gentleman who regards himself as a Christian to address a lady a second time who he regards as a Christian if he desire to marry her?” This quiry was answered in the affirmative, so you will see I have endeavored to act discretely, and certainly have done so with the greatest solicitude. I sincerely hope you will kindly entertain the subject, because it will render me more unhappy than anything that could befall me to know that no effort would avail.
The last time I saw you, you were more attractive I thought than you ever were, and the last smile I saw in your parlor…you cannot imagine how it affected me. I hope all the objections you have to marrying will be overcome by the time I see you again. I shall see you next Wednesday or I shall go down to your Father’s expecting to see you.
If I can see that you will entertain the matter at all, I will try to remove every obstacle that may be in the way. I want the sweet companionship of the lady I love. I pray the Lord it may be my lot to have it. I want to spend the whole day with you next Wednesday.
Yours with inexpressible devotion,
J. C. Fleetwood.
A note from the lady who sent this to my dad.
This is the second marriage proposal that my great grandfather made to my great grandmother, Louisa Franklin Maddrey. His first wife had died leaving seven children. He must have been desperate to marry, as he was often away starting up churches, thirteen in all. I can imagine why Louisa had to think twice about marrying him. After they were married, they had twelve children.
I feel sure that the original letter was in his handwriting. I retyped a letter which was hard to read, as it had been typed on a typewriter with clogged keys.
Evelyn Musselman, daughter of Elma Fleetwood Moore, 2/11/2010
Today has been busy and relaxing all at the same time. I actually got up and attended the 9:30 service at church. I'm so glad I did. The sermon was exactly what I needed to hear. It was about discontentment: A spiritual problem with a spiritual solution. After church, I met my mom at TJ Maxx and then we had lunch at PF Changs. So fun. She gave me a bracelet that belonged to my grandmother. She wanted me to have it to remind me that my mama loves me, Ma loves me and will always be in my heart, and that God loves me. I'm never taking it off. NEVER.
She also gave me my Valentine's Day present and bought me a cupcake canister at TJ Maxx. I'm using it to store my hot chocolate.
After our nap, I took Lulu to the dog park in my apt. complex. No one was there, so he had free reign, and I was able to spend some time going through my scripture spiral. I put lasagna in the oven for dinner, worked out, and got a shower while it cooked. It's almost ready. I'm hungry.
After dinner, I'll be up working for several hours...probably should have started this earlier...
That's all for today!
Everyone is getting restless as winter is winding down. I have a feeling we have a little ways to go. That's OK. I have a lot more hot chocolate to get through. I'm hoping for one more big snow. I have started to think about some things I want to do this summer. I haven't told anyone this yet, but I want to fish! I'd be fine sitting at the edge of a pond or lake or fishing by boat. I just think it would be fun and relaxing. It's a good way to work on my tan too. I used to fish a lot. I actually caught the first fish out of the pond when we first moved to our home in Burlington. So proud. I also about sunk our little jon boat in the middle of the lake with my best friend.We forgot to put the plug in. All we could do was scream and panic as the boat filled with water. My brother was yelling at us from the shore. He said some ugly words that I refuse to repeat. I thought he was concerned about us, but he was concerned about the dang boat! Hateful. We finally got it together and paddled to shore. I had another emergency in that stupid boat. I got stuck in a bunch of tree branches because my lure got caught in them, and I was trying to recover it. As I looked up to find my lure, there was a spider. A big one. Y'all. I about died. DIED. Yep. I am going to fish this summer. The bass better watch it. I have a feeling the bass aren't too worried.
Today is gorgeous! Lulu and I are sitting on the deck enjoying the warmth...yes, 50 degrees is warm. I have my sweet tea and some good reading material, so I am set. We might stay out here for the majority of the day. I have lots to read and do that can be done outside. Lately, I have had my spiral index cards of scripture by my side at all times. I also carry around a small devotional book to pull out when I need it. Which happens to be a lot. Here is one of the quotes from the Believing God devotional by Beth Moore.
"Some of the most adventurous endeavors you'll have with God may be too difficult at the time to enjoy, and by the time the party comes, you may smell too bad to go. Ah, but after a shower and a good look back..."
The party is coming. I may need 2 showers, a manicure, a new outfit, and a little extra perfume, but I will be ready. I think it is so important to recognize that in times of pain and hardship, God is often working on a climactic part of our story. He's preparing us for something BIG. Something wonderful. Something He's had in mind for us for the whole time.
Also in these HARD times of adventure with God, he is wanting to get rid of some things that do not belong in order for us to fully enjoy what He has coming.
Beth says, "Has God placed you in a position that seems to stir up every insecurity you have? TAKE IT PERSONALLY. He's stirring it up to scoop it out, often one spoonful at a time."
Let's not run from the pain and hard times. Grieve it out with God. Let Him heal, teach, and prepare us. Let's believe Him with everything we've got.
Tonight, I think I might get dressed up and go to dinner and a movie. Kelly Minter reminded me in her study on Ruth that it's fine to weep, but "weep forward." Ruth did, and she is one cool girl. And no worries, three steps forward and 2 steps back is still progress (that's another Beth quote).
Over and out...
Today, I treated myself to a manicure and pedicure. Happy Valentine's Day to me. I went in knowing that I wanted the reddest of red on my fingers and toes. There were tons of reds to choose from, and I couldn't really discriminate between them anyway. So, I resorted to looking at the names of them and choosing that way. I found the perfect red. The name: My Chihuahua Bites. OK. Done deal. I had to pick that one in honor of Lulu. For the most part he is a love bug, but he has attacked a few people who he thought had bad intentions toward me. And he honestly thinks he can take down my neighbor's pit bull. That's my boy.
This year, on Valentine's Day, I'm having to find love in the midst of heartache. It's there. Everywhere. Celebrating love this year looks differently now than what I thought it was going to look like a month ago. Even so, I like the way it looks. Love is my mama calling to check on me and my dad's quiet strength. It's my Uncle Gil's objectivity and rational thinking. It's my best friend listening to the same story and enduring the tears over and over. It's encouraging lunch dates, filled with advice. It's a little girl's Valentine's Day party. Love is my dog flipping out every time I walk in the door. Love is Jesus, who knows my heart and my desires better than anyone. He is my true love. And in Him, I am trusting on this Valentine's Day."The Lord your God is with you, he is mighty to save. He will take great delight in you, he will quiet you with his love, he will rejoice over you with singing." Zephaniah 3:17